People either try too hard or too little. I talk about it as being a butterfly landing in your hand. When a butterfly lands in your hand, some people make the mistake of pretending that they don’t care. That they don’t see the beauty that’s there, and in a way they play hard to get. So they open their hand, and the butterfly flies away. It sees no reason to be there. Another type of person, the butterfly lands there and they’re so terrified of that beautiful thing leaving their lives that they cover it up, and the butterfly either gets squashed or it tries to find an escape route, it starts looking for the cracks in your hand and it leaves. The third type of person, the person that really understands it, and its true in relationships too, that person, the butterfly lands in their hand, and they put their other hand up to shield the butterfly from the wind. And the butterfly sees the value in staying. That’s what it is to have a wonderful relationship.
— Matthew Hussey, the Butterfly metaphor (via dapperalice)